The Only 2 Submissive Collar Types You Need

If you’re involved in a Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship, you’ve probably encountered the vast array of BDSM collar types available. From consideration collars to posture collars, everyday wear to pet collars, the options can be overwhelming. But fear not! In this guide, we’ll explore the essential submissive collar types that every D/s couple should consider.

Understanding the Meaning of BDSM Collars in a D/s Relationship

A BDSM collar, also known as a sub or submissive collar, is a symbol of submission and ownership. While some people in the kink community wear collars for fun, many Dominants choose to collar their submissives as a sign of commitment. This is often done during a Collaring Ceremony, which we’ll discuss later in this article.

The Two Essential BDSM Collar Types You Need

By limiting your collection to two or three collars, you can create a strong emotional attachment to each one. Similar to how a pet dog feels secure when wearing its collar, submissives find comfort and meaning in their personal collars. Here are the two key collar types:

1. Play & Training BDSM Collar

When you think of BDSM, you likely envision these sturdy collars made of leather or similar materials. They often feature a d-ring or o-ring for attaching a leash, making them ideal for pet play. The purpose of this collar is to train the submissive and establish the correct mindset for a scene. Just before a play session, the Dominant may have their submissive kneel, then secure the collar around their neck. For extra punishment or reinforcement of the submissive’s place, the collar can be worn tightly.

2. Discreet BDSM Collar for Daily Wear

For those who prefer to keep their D/s relationship more private, a discreet “Day Collar” is the perfect choice. These collars resemble short or tight necklaces, often incorporating an o-ring. In Owner/pet dynamics, a small bell may be added for additional symbolism. While less noticeable to vanilla individuals, wearing this collar is a statement of belonging and pride for the submissive. Forgetting to wear it outside the house may result in punishment from the Dominant.

The Collaring Ceremony and Beyond

When a Dominant decides to make a lifelong commitment to their submissive, a Collaring Ceremony is often held. Similar to a wedding, this event involves vows and may have witnesses present. During the ceremony, the Dominant will collar the sub, solidifying their Dominant/submissive dynamic. Eternity collars can be used for this purpose, but the choice is personal and should align with the couple’s preferences. Additional rituals, such as kneeling before a play session or wearing a collar when leaving the house, can also be incorporated into the relationship.

Do All Doms Collar Their Subs During Training?

Collaring is not a requirement in every D/s relationship. Some Doms may not use collars, so it’s important for submissives to discuss their desires during the vetting and negotiation stages. If a submissive wishes to wear a collar to showcase ownership, they can respectfully express their desire to their Dom. Ultimately, it is the Dominant’s decision, but subs can also purchase their own collars to signify their submission.

Self-Collaring: Can a Submissive Wear a Collar Without a Dom?

Many submissives choose to wear collars even when they are not in a relationship. Wearing a collar can be a powerful way to demonstrate commitment and devotion to oneself. It helps submissives stay connected to their chosen lifestyle and serves as a reminder to strive for personal growth and excellence as a submissive, with or without a Dom. If you encounter someone wearing a collar, it’s best not to assume their relationship status or pry. Some individuals wear collars as a fashion statement, while others wear them as a personal expression of their submissive identity.

BDSM Jewelry Options for Dominants

It’s important to note that Dominants can also wear jewelry to represent their role. Many Doms choose rings, necklaces, or bracelets that symbolize their Dominance. Some even wear cufflinks or tie clips with engravings. In DDlg or Caregiver/little relationships, the “little” may craft a bracelet for their Daddy or Mommy using colorful beads.

BDSM Collar Etiquette and Protocol

Typically, the collar is purchased by the Dom and becomes their property. In the event that the dynamic ends, the collar should be returned to the Dominant, unless otherwise agreed upon. Rules regarding when to wear the collar can vary between dynamics. For example, a submissive may be allowed to remove the collar during exercise, sleep, or shower. To ensure clear communication, it’s advisable to include a BDSM collar protocol in your contract.

Choosing the Right Collar for You

While it’s possible to wear regular necklaces or other types of jewelry, BDSM collars hold special meaning within the lifestyle. Collars sit close to the submissive’s neck, serving as a constant reminder of their D/s relationship. This intimate placement distinguishes collars from other accessories. As dogs wear collars to signify ownership, submissives wear them to show their submission. So, embrace the privilege of collaring or being collared, and have fun finding the perfect collar that suits your needs and desires.

Remember, collars are not only beneficial for those in a D/s relationship but also add an undeniable allure to your BDSM lifestyle. Own your collar with pride and let it empower you as you explore the depths of your submission. 🖤

Note: The original article can be found on Maneki Neko.